What’s your biggest Migraine related fear? How do you cope with it?
That the pain will never end and it will kill me. Or more likely it will cause me to kill myself, but maybe it will be a heart attack, or a stroke or a seizure. But the never-ending pain scares me because that makes me fear I will get to that mental place where I will want to kill myself again. A very tangible and real fear given my history.
Coping with it is difficult because every day I cope with all this pain through work and unsympathetic doctors and surviving. How I don’t know. I manage. Then comes along a five to seven-day migraine hell where the pain does not stop, I can’t sleep and I’m desperate, At those times I wish I didn’t have to work, but I know my doctor, neuro, and insurance companies have given me no options. I wish I had some options, but I don’t know how to achieve them. I’m desperate for relief but know the ER will not provide it. I don’t know how I’m going to manage to function for the next few days at work let alone decades. That is were coping deteriorates and where your ability to reason and think clearly shut off.
That is why I’m afraid of it. The spiral and the slippery slope of despair. The fine line of suicidal ideation and intent. I fear unmanaged pain and the lack of the capacity to deal with it while trying to function in the world. And I have every right to fear that.
You know, you think you can survive in survival mode forever, until you can’t. I know that now. I am very aware pain has a limit. And I have exceeded it. Knowing I almost didn’t survive that once, makes me fear I may not survive it in the future. With a sort of hopeless acceptance that nothing ever changes for the better.
So I fear pain. I fear me. I fear the future.