I love this quote and find it to extremely inspiring to me. It reminds me of something my pain psychologist said to me. That I will always be in pain and that I had to learn to live a life with it, as much as I was capable of and within limits. I can’t work, so I need to fill that void with something else. That sort of thing.
Here is the thing: We will have pain regardless of whether we do nothing at all or do something that will be beneficial to us like go socialize, as long as we keep limits and pacing in mind. It just means we have to choose carefully what type of socializing we can do as to not aggravate our condition. Have a migraine? A rock concert or movie is out. But inviting a few people over to chat is fine. Maybe play some Cards Against Humanity. Assuming that migraine has a) been treated with a triptan or other med or has b) lowered some in pain to be around a 6 or 7.
We have to learn to have a life with pain and then get us some glorious moments.
The only problem is unmanaged pain and comorbid mental illness that isn’t managed. Because when this happens quality of life goes down and we don’t have much of a life… we have an existence. So treatment is a very important factor in this. Before we can have a life, we must be able to have pain managed somewhat.
Another important factor is our limits. If we are constantly exceeding our limits through work or otherwise we will have nothing left over to give to the rest of our life, and be in too much pain from exceeding our limits for anything. We have to make compromises and we have to understand we have limitations. We have to moderate, pace and stay within our pain limits to have any semblance of a life.
Only then can we manage the life that others take for granted, maybe a more mellow and careful life. Maybe not as active. But we will have our glorious moments and our gleams of sunshine.