One of the hardest things about having a chronic illness is all the worrying about things I have absolutely no control over.
Let it be.
And all the things I should be or could be doing that I feel guilty about.
Let it be.
I feel like I am letting my family down. That I am nothing more than a burden.
Let it be.
I get so tired of these thoughts sometimes. And I have to just let it be. It is what it is. I have no control over being chronically ill. No control over what my insurance company says about me being chronically ill or their approval for my application. I worry about it endlessly but I have no power to control that. I have to drop the thoughts and just let it be. Do what is in my power and control.
Sometimes I have acceptance.
And sometimes I don’t and I have to give myself a break.
When I am plagued with the guilt and the worry the best thing for me is distraction. Do something I enjoy. Rest. Or read. Consciously set aside the thought. Just drop it. And let it be.
I can’t control much. I certainly cannot control the pain. All I can have a modest about on control over is how I react to the pain. I can think about my reactions and choose to react a different way. And I can cope with the reactions I cannot avoid. The sense of guilt isn’t a reaction I like, but I can’t avoid it. So I have to re-frame it. I’m not guilty of being ill. There is no shame in it. So I shouldn’t be guilty over x, y, and Z. And to drop that guilty though, because it gets me nowhere. Just drop it. As soon as I have it I tell myself to Stop thinking that way.
Thank you for this post. I struggle with this non-stop. Now I’m gonna remember-let it be, let it be, let it be.
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It is what I have been using and so far it helps
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just drop it and let it be…I like that.
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Me too!
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I like it! I hope your flare and migraine pass quickly.
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This migraine is a real beast. I guess I have to wait this one out.
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Hey there, as a chronic control freak of 46 yrs, letting go has been my biggest challenge but also the biggest help. Keep up with the positive thoughts x
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It definitely helps. I am one that doesn’t tend to give myself a break. Mentally. But it is good when I can just be at peace with things
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Sorry, that was from Lowen @ livingpositivelywithdisability.com 😀
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