How do you know someone is faking fibromyalgia?
This is a thing people google. And I can tell you the short answer right now is that statistically speaking if you assume they are not, you’d most likely be right. Because it is so rare that anyone fakes an illness.
I know a lot of people out there have a hard time figuring out fibromyalgia. And if they know someone with it they may just not understand it even then. Because here we are with this invisible disability with its fatigue and chronic pain no one can see… it is hard to know our world especially when We are trying to function in Yours.
Invisible Disabilities come with Doubt. Because they cannot be Seen or Known. Doubt happens. I have no idea why. You can’t see 99% of chronic illnesses. Why is it so bloody confusing?
Nevertheless, doubting someone’s painful chronic condition is not cool. It is extremely hurtful. And my only advice if you cannot believe their existence with chronic pain is what my parents used to say ‘if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all’. In other words, if you have no empathy, no sympathy, no compassion… just say nothing. We do not need your understanding. And we could definitely live without your judgement. Silence is your friend.
Anyway, I highly doubt anyone would fake having fibromyalgia. Just because:
- There are easier forms of chronic pain to fake if anyone was so inclined to be that sort of douche.
- And if you were going to choose anything to fake I don’t think you’d go with a syndrome that is so highly stigmatized to this day.
- And I don’t think you would pick one that is very much doubted by doctors and employers to this day.
Just my thoughts on it there. Worst choice for fakers out there. But who the hell knows what goes on in the head of people like that or their reasons. I don’t think it is As Many people as people seem to think but I couldn’t find a stat on that. But yeah fraud occurs. And for a variety of reasons I assume. But in such low numbers if you assume everyone is faking you are wrong way, way, way more times than you will ever be right.
Social Security’s own statistics indicate that the fraud and abuse is rather small, in the neighborhood of one percent. I don’t think it’s different than any other system. I think any system where people are getting benefits, there are people who are going to try to take advantage of the system. I certainly know of cases or have heard of cases where someone received benefits, continued to work, got cash under the table, those are the real obvious ones. The less obvious ones are the ones where maybe someone received benefits and just didn’t want to work, so they’re just not motivated to work. For every case that I run into where I really think a person is on disability and shouldn’t be, I could cite five or ten cases where I think people were denied that shouldn’t have been. I think that the, I simply think that the system is so set up where it’s hard to convince Social Security a person’s disabled. If Social Security can find one job that a person could do anywhere, not even in your location but in your region, they will deny you by saying that you should go find that one job. I can’t tell you the number of cases that I’ve seen where it just breaks my heart that on such a small number of jobs, Social Security would deny someone’s claim. The difficulty of convincing Social Security that someone’s disabled makes it much more likely a person is denied their deserved benefits than the other way around.Troutman &troutman
And that is the real truth. Not that much fraud, way, way more people who are disabled but turned down for disability out there than those ‘faking it’.
But fibromyalgia can’t be seen and it is because someone seems fine sometimes on the outside
And I know it is very hard to tell. So I have come up with some things to look at suspiciously in your family member or friend with fibromyalgia to see if maybe they are faking it.
You see them do something. Clearly, this implies they are not disabled by pain.
Oh, wait, then you don’t see them do a thing for the next week. In fact, it seems like they do not leave the house and seem to be in a lot of pain and very tired. This is called a Flare Up. And they did that thing knowing it would cause a flare-up but they did it anyway because a) they had to b) they wanted to c) they felt obligated to. But maybe you Don’t see this At All because it is behind closed doors and you don’t know them that well. All you see is that They Did A Thing.
They don’t do one thing one day and then do it the next! I mean, WHAT? Clearly, faking.
Or, wait, maybe… just maybe pain is variable and one day it is very high and the next it is manageable. Or, wait, maybe… just maybe one day there was no recovery time from said thing and recovery time is a must but the next day they would have a day or so recovery time so they chose that day to do said thing.
They are always complaining about being tired but they sleep so damn much
Fibromyalgia is weird in the sense that we can sleep for a long period of time and not get refreshing sleep at all, so we wake up feeling like a zombie that has been decomposing for a good five days. Because our deep sleep isn’t, well, deep. And so we do not get good refreshing sleep no matter how much we sleep. Also, we are very prone to sleep disorders: delayed onset insomnia, restless leg syndrome, sleep apnea and more. Added to the pain itself makes sleep actually hard to attain and maintain. We have a hard time getting to sleep, staying asleep, and of course, we are bloody tired when we get up. And of course, our brains Want More sleep if we can have it because we are sleep-deprived.
And we rest because we are super fatigued. Which is not ‘tired’ but something that drags you down to the ground and keeps you there. And fatigue has nothing to do with being tired from the lack of sleep but it sure doesn’t help.
They have so many symptoms. That can’t even be real
There is a lot in this syndrome. It affects the brain and the nervous system and so that means there are a lot of symptoms a person can get. Seems more like it sucks for us more so than the person observing us though.
Signs someone Likely Does Not have Fibromyaliga
If they say things like:
- OUCH! That tickles ever so slightly.
- I slept so awesome last night
- That Tylenol Totally resolved my pain
- I sometimes ache a little bit when it rains
- Yeah, I could kinda use a nap
- Pain on a scale of 1-10? Hmmm 3?
Signs they do, when they say
- Yeah, I have fibromyalgia